Divorce is not just about negotiations and divorce settlements. It is also a very emotional experience, especially when the time comes to break the news to your friends and family. This can be an overwhelming situation and you might not be sure how or where to even begin. Planning is the key to ensuring this moment goes smoothly, so try to take some time to consider what you will say, how you plan on saying it, and whether or not you feel comfortable answering questions.
Telling Your Family
Generally, it is best to break the news to your closest family members first, such as your parents or siblings. Although talking about your impending divorce can be difficult, try to remain calm and collected as you deliver the message and avoid playing the blame game or providing every little detail. Simply let them know that you and your spouse are no longer able to make the marriage work and that you would like their emotional support during this time.
You might not necessarily have to tell your extended family members about the divorce since they will probably hear about it from your parents or siblings. It is entirely up to you.
Telling Your Friends
Telling your friends about your divorce can sometimes be as difficult as telling your family, especially if they are also friends of your spouse. If this is the case for you, try to be diplomatic and do not put them in a position where they might feel obligated to choose sides. You should also refrain from providing extensive details to respect the privacy of your spouse.
Telling Your Employer or Co-Workers
It is actually crucial to tell your boss about your divorce since it is possible the proceedings might affect your work schedule and you will have to change your withholding information for tax purposes. When you tell your boss about your divorce, assure them that you will do your best to continue your normal work schedule, though you might also need some time off occasionally to deal with the legalities of your divorce.
While telling your boss is a good idea, if not a necessity, it is usually not wise to tell your co-workers about it, especially if you are not friends with them outside of work. Telling them will prompt them to regularly ask you questions about its progress, which can distract you from your work and unnecessarily add to your stress levels.
San Diego Divorce Attorneys
No matter where you are in the divorce process, the San Diego divorce team and Cage & Miles, LLP can help you navigate the complexities of any situation. We understand the difficulties associated with divorce and will work tirelessly to limit the impact it can have on you and your family as well as your lifestyle and finances.
Contact us today at (858) 943-2060 to request a confidential consultation to discuss your case.